tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post8519828964070062430..comments2023-12-28T21:22:10.935-07:00Comments on Jill Outside: RealityJill Homerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02983065990450931943noreply@blogger.comBlogger99125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-86997411498184236822009-05-27T12:53:42.865-06:002009-05-27T12:53:42.865-06:00Jill,
I'm so saddened to hear the end of your rel...Jill, <br />I'm so saddened to hear the end of your relationship. Having been on both ends of your situation I know there is nothing any of us can say to get you past this, it's something you'll work through eventually. For me, it seems that it has always taken me at least as long as the relationship lasted to truly put it in my past, so maybe knowing this will help you allow yourself the time to discover what your new life direction will be. A wise friend has shared with me his belief that the Universe always has a plan for what happens to us, it's up to us to figure out what the lesson that needs to be learned is. For me, upon reflection, it has taken me years to sometimes to figure it all out. Don't be in a hurry, just be open to the Universe's message, you will get it when you are supposed to and it will all make sense. Relationships with friends and lovers end to make room for new friends and lovers, be open to this and it will happen in due course. Thanks for sharing your situation will your readers, we would have been extremely puzzled and feel let down if you had just ended this blog on this downer event. I'm actually excited for you and look forward to the adventures to come! Everything happens for a reason and soon enough, hopefully, you will share it will us in the right moment.dreamwalknhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05315075864345039948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-45247295411084277302009-05-27T05:32:57.049-06:002009-05-27T05:32:57.049-06:00I'm glad you are sticking with your sabbatical. I...I'm glad you are sticking with your sabbatical. In the posts you've made since this one, it sounds like the time off is just what you need...or you are making it into what you need, which is even better.W. Lotushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09519744447652590430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-31335556071975112482009-05-19T02:52:00.000-06:002009-05-19T02:52:00.000-06:00Remember, The Real One is The One after The One.Remember, The Real One is The One after The One.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-84315333453178490032009-05-15T15:54:00.000-06:002009-05-15T15:54:00.000-06:00I vote for listening to your brain and grieving as...I vote for listening to your brain and grieving as needed. I think it sucks when people think they have to, 'be strong' etc etc. Be what you feel.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-59567323299579714452009-05-15T12:51:00.000-06:002009-05-15T12:51:00.000-06:00So sorry to hear - the loss of a relationship is s...So sorry to hear - the loss of a relationship is so crappy and hard to get through especially when you don't know its coming - Your not alone but know you will get through it and transition to more changes. A change in plans is not a bad thing.<br />I'll buy you a beer when your in Seattle for Livestrong.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13264028509414469030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-81936391838330649362009-05-13T16:43:00.000-06:002009-05-13T16:43:00.000-06:00Oh Jill...others have said it - a beautiful post a...Oh Jill...others have said it - a beautiful post as is often the case when you hit on emotions like this. Like others, I wish you speedy healing and I am sorry you are going through all of this. I read your book on the flight to Maui and I have been thinking about you lots. I'll continue thinking about you and hope that in some weird way those vibes make you feel just the tiniest bit better.<br /><br />Oh....and you know you have a place to stay in Whitehorse if you ever do want to make that transition :)Jennoithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03200703483030319387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-4706299886244916682009-05-13T04:47:00.000-06:002009-05-13T04:47:00.000-06:00Jill,
I, too, have been reading for some time and...Jill,<br /><br />I, too, have been reading for some time and have made occasionaly comments. But, man...this really ticks me off. For some reason, I'm kinda not surprised that Geoff did this, as he at times has certainly seemed incredibly self-centered (though you have never directly portrayed him that way). Its just a feeling I've gotten sometimes. You have always been there for him, even in the face of all the amazing things you have accomplished yourself. It just ticks me off that he didn't have the courage to do this earlier before you had made major life changes/plans to spend the summer with him.<br /><br />Anyway, I'm really sorry to hear about all of this, but am hoping that you can still find a way to enjoy this time on your own and enjoy all the beautiful places you'll be able to visit. I can't emphasize enough how great it is that you can take time to do this. As a parent with two small kids, a demanding job, and a mortgage, I can only dream about doing what you are doing. Enjoy it...you never know when you'll have an opportunity like this again.<br /><br />My thoughts are with you.Kristinhttp://maisiella.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-58557835630516748732009-05-12T23:46:00.000-06:002009-05-12T23:46:00.000-06:00Jill, I'm so sorry about the break-up. For what it...Jill, I'm so sorry about the break-up. For what it's worth, your post was beautifully written. It really captures a feeling that is common to all of us who have been in and out of relationships. You are in my thoughts.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08110456184406428535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-47935954295785666982009-05-12T02:39:00.000-06:002009-05-12T02:39:00.000-06:00Jill, sorry to hear of your breakup with Geoff. Ho...Jill, sorry to hear of your breakup with Geoff. Hope you'll get out stronger on the other side, I know I did.Jannekehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14070292891757893570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-31351359981734305612009-05-11T23:17:00.000-06:002009-05-11T23:17:00.000-06:00i've been reading your blog for a while... always ...i've been reading your blog for a while... always a lurker. this post is the one that finally brought me out of the shadows. i'm sorry about the tough times. i've enjoyed reading your blog b/c i admire your strength, both mentall and physically. hopefully that strength will get you through this too. <br /><br />life sucks sometimes. but then it gets better.khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10843626526627875695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-899951365485667832009-05-11T11:06:00.000-06:002009-05-11T11:06:00.000-06:00you don't know me, either (just another reader) bu...you don't know me, either (just another reader) but when my partner of 10 years and I broke up, I thought it would be insurmountable to find my way again. Not because I didn't know I was great, just because I didn't know what it would be like. Five years out, I'm stronger, better, warmer, more generous. We're still friends, or friends again, so I know it's possible. Like your injured arm, your heart will heal. Might take a while, will probably leave a scar, but it will heal.<br /><br />Wishing you support from your people, strength, and the occasionally good melt-down.Eileenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05592471325011611637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-17610626953127830392009-05-11T08:28:00.000-06:002009-05-11T08:28:00.000-06:00Someone once said...The Journey is the Destination...Someone once said...The Journey is the Destination.Marlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03480066800763641157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-40987629625502017602009-05-10T22:54:00.000-06:002009-05-10T22:54:00.000-06:00Hey Jill it's me, the anonomous jerk who's been pe...Hey Jill it's me, the anonomous jerk who's been pestering you now for the past year. I'd like to be able to offer you some Hallmark greeting card sympathy like the other people on here, but I can't. I've been saying that there was something seriously wrong with that boy now for a long time, and it was only a matter of time before you got dumped, and it looks like now it's finally happened. Not a big suprise, given his previous track record of behaviour.<br /><br />There's something strange going on with him, like he's running away from everything all the time. I don't know enough pychobabble bullshit or enough about Geoff's past to figure it out. What's the story with his dad, is he still alive, or were his parents divorced ?.<br /><br />Anyways, enough about trying to figure out his actions, I always though he was a douchebag anyways, and the breakup just proves my point. With Geoff's personality he has a big future ahead of him hanging out with a sausage-fest of his male running buddies, waxing his carrot, and gazing longingly at stray sheep during the GDR.<br /><br />Don't sweat the breakup, in the long run you'll probably be much better off once you realise it isn't you that has the problem, and you just managed to hook up with a guy who has "issues". <br /><br />There are tons of outdoor oriented guys out there, and you're young and attractive, and it'd take you about two seconds to find a new boyfriend. <br /><br />Spend your time now hanging out with friends and riding your bike. Don't waste your time trying to remain "friends" with Geoff and pretending everything's all nice and you two are still buddies now. Kick his ass to the curb, move forward, and don't look back. He split last year, dumped you this year, and he doesn't deserve the honor of your friendship anymore.<br /><br /><br />(Psssst....if you could spot me a few bucks for the price of a bus ticket I could come over and offer you some consolation hugs. You just have to promise not to try and hit me, I bruise easily, and I can't run away anymore since I broke my damned ankle last year.) ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-73272150776261854002009-05-10T22:14:00.000-06:002009-05-10T22:14:00.000-06:00Jill, So sorry to hear your heartbreaking news. Yo...Jill, So sorry to hear your heartbreaking news. You are very courageous for writing this. Our thoughts are with you during this time of sorrow.Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14750264894358084622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-10325051254068201062009-05-10T22:00:00.000-06:002009-05-10T22:00:00.000-06:00Jill,
I don't want to comment on what you said but...Jill,<br />I don't want to comment on what you said but focus more on your photo....Words cannot describe what I see when I look at it. <br />When I logged on and saw the photo it took my breath away, so much so that I knew something bad was about to be talked about so I had to log off till I had time to read and ponder what was happening. You have such amazing tallent that it is hard to describe. Your photo is now permanently on my background and NEVER to be replaced. I put it as my background and when I log on all I can do is stare...not about what it has to do with you, but at what it has to say to me. I can't really describe it but it brings out a flood of emotion that touches my heart. If you ever write another book(and i'm sure you will) I strongly urge you to use this as your cover. PeaceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-91487006775778721812009-05-10T20:41:00.000-06:002009-05-10T20:41:00.000-06:00Jill, I am so sad to hear the news. I don't have ...Jill, I am so sad to hear the news. I don't have the words to make it better. You're strong and will make it through just like the long nights on the trail that seem like they won't end.UltraRobhttp://www.ultrarob.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-73360452301535754592009-05-10T18:30:00.000-06:002009-05-10T18:30:00.000-06:00When I was writing my Masters Thesis in England, m...When I was writing my Masters Thesis in England, miles from my family and friends, my fiance broke up with me for my best friend.<br /><br />I have been there, and it is grief and it sucks.<br /><br />I finished the thesis, determined they wouldn't take that from me. They broke up a few weeks later. There years later I married someone else, and it is good. But for 6 months in 2003, my life hung on a framework of pain, and only writing in a journal kept me from choking on my sorrow.<br /><br />Hoping this journal becomes a balm to you. We are lifting you up in this time of unrest and sadness -<br /><br />Another GillGillianhttp://www.spaces.msn.com/gilliangaladrielnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-85265826215775663562009-05-10T14:09:00.000-06:002009-05-10T14:09:00.000-06:00Jill, I've read your blog for a long time, enjoyed...Jill, I've read your blog for a long time, enjoyed it immensely and admired the determination you've shown along the way. I also now admire your courage you are showing by writing about your deepest feelings. I wish you all the best and know you will continue to succeed in all you do. Warm thoughts to you.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09153238213945350107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-45272022174073135782009-05-10T13:56:00.000-06:002009-05-10T13:56:00.000-06:00Sorry to hear of your breakup Jill...all I can say...Sorry to hear of your breakup Jill...all I can say is that you will heal and life does get better. I was with a man for 17 years and when we parted, I really thought my life was over, how wrong I was! Life is grand and more amazing than I thought it could be. I don't regret the past and I love the present....all will be well<br /><br />Adventure NellAdventure Nellnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-86288598944745216902009-05-10T11:30:00.000-06:002009-05-10T11:30:00.000-06:00good luck, jill. i'm glad you let us blog readers...good luck, jill. i'm glad you let us blog readers in on what is going on with you--now you have a huge amount of people sending you good, healing thoughts! you have a great support net that will help you get through anything (not saying you need the help, but just in case!). take care of yourself!!daninoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-49728891413617580242009-05-10T10:17:00.000-06:002009-05-10T10:17:00.000-06:00While you're in CA.you should check out the Easter...While you're in CA.you should check out the Eastern Sierra...maybe that would help ;) <br /><br />It sounds like after sometime you will be fine...arm included.~Bob~Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-20935383300237462222009-05-10T07:40:00.000-06:002009-05-10T07:40:00.000-06:00my heart goes out to you. i was surprised at your ...my heart goes out to you. i was surprised at your reaction. never seemed like you and geoff had that kind of relationship. hopefully you will remain friends. I'm sorry for your pain. be good to yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-45911954399831531982009-05-10T07:00:00.000-06:002009-05-10T07:00:00.000-06:00Jill, Sorry to hear your news. Been there, done t...Jill, Sorry to hear your news. Been there, done that. Go slow, take your time, discover who you are without Geoff. You are in a great place right now, just go slow. BigJoeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-7146997483027839822009-05-10T06:51:00.000-06:002009-05-10T06:51:00.000-06:00Hi Jill
You feel crappy now, and you have to, it i...Hi Jill<br />You feel crappy now, and you have to, it is part of the process. Just remember, while it is the end of something, its the beginning of soemthing else, with all the mystery intrigue, excitement and adventure that can bring. This from experience.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18615538.post-84413627805691245792009-05-10T00:55:00.000-06:002009-05-10T00:55:00.000-06:00Jill, I'm sorry .. but you are great and the futur...Jill, I'm sorry .. but you are great and the future is only for you!!<br />In Italy we say : motro un Papa se ne fa un'altro!!!<br /><br />Ciao <br />StefyStefaniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05687488556650427536noreply@blogger.com